{"id":1060,"date":"2019-05-23T03:56:04","date_gmt":"2019-05-23T03:56:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/?p=1060"},"modified":"2019-06-08T18:14:16","modified_gmt":"2019-06-08T18:14:16","slug":"stoicism-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/2019\/05\/23\/stoicism-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Stoicism 2"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Dac\u0103 a\u021bi pierdut partea 1, citi\u021bi-o aici<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Concentreaz\u0103-te pe ceea ce po\u021bi controla \u0219i accept\u0103 ceea ce nu po\u021bi controla<\/strong>. \u0218tim aceast\u0103 idee, dac\u0103 nu \u00een forma aceasta,  \u00een multe alte zicale populare. O \u0219tim dar avem probleme \u00een a o accepta \u0219i, deci, \u00een a o aplica. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce anume putem controla<\/strong>? Tot ce \u021bine de noi \u00een\u0219ine: g\u00e2ndurile, judec\u0103\u021bile \u0219i ac\u021biune noastre<\/strong>. ALE NOASTRE, nu ale celorlal\u021bi. Ce anume nu putem controla<\/strong>? Absolut tot restul \u2013 moartea, s\u0103n\u0103tatea, reputa\u021bia, ac\u021biunile \u0219i g\u00e2ndurile celorlal\u021bi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Aceast\u0103 regul\u0103 mi se pare extrem de important\u0103 pentru fericirea noastr\u0103<\/strong>. NOI putem doar crea premizele unor evenimente fericite \u2013 de exemplu s\u0103 ne preg\u0103tim bine profesional, s\u0103 muncim cu dedica\u021bie \u2013 dar asta nu e garan\u021bia unui final fericit. Via\u021ba poate face astfel c\u0103, \u00een ciuda d\u0103ruirii noastre, s\u0103 fim da\u021bi afar\u0103 din slujb\u0103. \u00cen acest caz tot ce putem face e s\u0103 realiz\u0103m c\u0103 e un fapt de via\u021b\u0103. S\u0103 accept\u0103m \u0219i s\u0103 nu o lu\u0103m \u00een tragic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Alt exemplu: putem s\u0103 educ\u0103m copiii bine, s\u0103 le d\u0103m pove\u021bele cele mai nimerite pentru o via\u021b\u0103 bun\u0103, s\u0103 le oferim via\u021ba noastr\u0103 ca exemplu de virtute \u0219i totu\u0219i nu le putem tr\u0103i via\u021ba \u0219i nu-i putem \u00eempiedica s\u0103-\u0219i fac\u0103 propriile gre\u0219eli. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunt multe lucrurile pe care nu le putem controla<\/strong>. Determinismul imprimat \u00een con\u0219tiin\u021ba noastr\u0103 de succesele \u0219tiin\u021bei ne \u00een\u0219eal\u0103 \u0219i ne \u00eempinge s\u0103 credem c\u0103 putem controla totul. Nu este adev\u0103rat<\/strong>. Chiar \u0219i \u00een ceea ceea ce putem controla putem face gre\u0219eli \u0219i deseori sc\u0103p\u0103m fr\u00e2iele din m\u00e2n\u0103. Asta e un fapt de via\u021b\u0103 \u0219i, a\u0219a cum vom vedea din alt\u0103 regul\u0103, e \u00een puterea noastr\u0103 s\u0103 le folosim ca lec\u021bii<\/strong> \u0219i<\/strong> s\u0103 nu<\/strong> le privim ca fiind dezastre<\/strong>. Putem controla \u00eens\u0103 cum ne uit\u0103m la ele: cu frustrare, am\u0103r\u0103ciune, m\u00e2nie SAU le putem \u00een\u021belege adev\u0103rata natur\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 reu\u0219im s\u0103 trecem de ele \u0219i s\u0103 ie\u0219im de partea cealalt\u0103 mai drep\u021bi, mai buni, mai aproape de Via\u021ba Bun\u0103<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. F\u0103 distinc\u021bia dintre Bine, R\u0103u \u0219i Indiferent<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tr\u0103im \u00eentr-o lume care crede \u00een relativism<\/strong> \u2013 cultural, social, al op\u021biunilor personale <\/strong>etc. Ni se repet\u0103 la nesf\u00e2r\u0219it c\u0103 totul e relativ, e o chestiune de optic\u0103 ca \u0219i cum n-ar mai exista valoare. Este, discutabil, una din cele mai mari minciuni ale societ\u0103\u021bii noastre. \u0218i ne face r\u0103u – c\u0103 nu mai \u0219tim pe ce drum s\u0103 apuc\u0103m. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Binele \u0219i R\u0103ul \u00eenc\u0103 exist\u0103 <\/strong>– indiferent de ce ne spun site-urile \u0219i blogurile. Cum le putem \u0219ti? Prin rezultate <\/strong>\u2013 e alt\u0103 obsesie a stoicilor, anume c\u0103 putem evalua o idee prin rezultatele ideii<\/strong>. Restul \u2013 inten\u021biile personale, g\u00e2ndurile etc. sunt irelevante. E un concept pe care l-am adoptat instinctiv. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se spune, deseori, c\u0103 toate culturile sunt egale. Cu excep\u021bia culturii Europei de Vest (cu prelungirea ei din America de Nord) care, se spune, e vicioas\u0103 \u0219i a condus la mult\u0103 suferin\u021b\u0103. Dar aceast\u0103 teorie e\u0219ueaz\u0103 pentru c\u0103 nici un om de bun\u0103 credin\u021b\u0103 nu poate nega c\u0103 aceast\u0103 cultur\u0103 a condus la conceptul de Drepturi ale Omului, la democra\u021bie, la libertate \u0219i prosperitate. E SINGURA cultur\u0103 care a z\u0103mislit aceste concepte<\/strong>. De ce, dac\u0103 toate culturile sunt egale ba, mai mult, cultura european\u0103 e at\u00e2t de tic\u0103loas\u0103, membrii celorlalte culturi imigreaz\u0103 spre aceasta? E clar c\u0103 aceast\u0103 cultur\u0103 ofer\u0103 beneficii pe care culturile lor (interesante \u00een felul lor) nu le ofer\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce este Binele<\/strong>? E tot ce include virtu\u021bile cardinale ale stoicilor: \u00een\u021belepciune, justi\u021bie, curaj \u0219i auto-disciplin\u0103<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ce este R\u0103ul<\/strong>? Antiteza acestor virtu\u021bi: lipsa bunului sim\u021b, lipsa de justi\u021bie, la\u0219itatea \u0219i indulgen\u021ba<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i ce este Indiferent<\/strong>, a treia categorie? Absolut tot\nrestul. Pe scurt \u2013 s\u0103n\u0103tate, bun\u0103stare,\nfaim\u0103<\/strong>. Pe lung \u2013 via\u021b\u0103\/moarte, faim\u0103\/infamie, pl\u0103cere\/durere,\nbog\u0103\u021bie\/s\u0103r\u0103cie, s\u0103n\u0103tate\/boal\u0103.  Exact acele lucruri pe care societatea\nmodern\u0103 le \u021bine cu drag la piept \u0219i le clasific\u0103 drept BINELE<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aceste lucruri sunt indiferente… pentru a tr\u0103i Via\u021ba Bun\u0103. Indiferent dac\u0103 e\u0219ti bogat sau s\u0103rac, s\u0103n\u0103tos sau bolnav, stoicii sus\u021bin c\u0103 po\u021bi tr\u0103i Via\u021ba Bun\u0103 \u0219i c\u0103 po\u021bi atinge fericirea prin virtute. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Evident c\u0103 e preferabil s\u0103 fii s\u0103n\u0103tos dec\u00e2t bolnav – \u0219i stoicii separau “indiferentul preferabil<\/strong><\/em>\u201d de cel \u201enepreferabil\u201d, dar po\u021bi atinge fericirea indiferent de acestea. To\u021bi prefer\u0103m s\u0103n\u0103tate \u0219i bog\u0103\u021bie \u0219i \u00eempliniri dar stoicii sus\u021bin c\u0103 e mai bine s\u0103 \u00eenduri suferin\u021b\u0103, durere, s\u0103r\u0103cie sau boal\u0103 \u00eentr-o manier\u0103 onorabil\u0103 dec\u00e2t s\u0103 cau\u021bi bucurie, bog\u0103\u021bie, s\u0103n\u0103tate \u00eentr-un mod ru\u0219inos, care se \u00eendep\u0103rteaz\u0103 de virtute<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u0103 ne g\u00e2ndim, ca exemplu, la prietenie \u2013 \u00eentotdeauna e mai bine s\u0103 ai prieteni dec\u00e2t s\u0103 nu ai. Dar c\u00e2nd vine vorba de a alege \u00eentre un prieten \u0219i virtute, pentru un stoic <\/strong>nu este nici o dilem\u0103 \u2013 va alege virtutea<\/strong>; nu va min\u021bi pentru un prieten ca s\u0103-l scape de judecat\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E o idee extrem de important\u0103 pentru medii corupte cum e Rom\u00e2nia, unde oamenii par s\u0103 nu \u0219tie ce s\u0103 fac\u0103. <\/strong>Acolo loialitatea datorat\u0103 unui prieten sau cuiva care te-a ajutat, e mai important\u0103 dec\u00e2t orice \u2013 con\u0219tiin\u021b\u0103, familie, binele general. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi se par c\u0103 alegerea stoicilor este arbitrul de c\u0103p\u0103t\u00e2i al unei societ\u0103\u021bi normale, ne\u00eenl\u0103n\u021buit\u0103 de lan\u021bul \u201esl\u0103biciunilor\u201d. Un prieten e un prieten \u0219i dac\u0103-l po\u021bi ajuta \u2013 \u00een limitele virtu\u021bii \u2013 e numai normal s\u0103-l aju\u021bi dar dac\u0103 e un prieten BUN nu-\u021bi va cere s\u0103-\u021bi pierzi sufletul ajut\u00e2ndu-l.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

VA URMA<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dac\u0103 a\u021bi pierdut partea 1, citi\u021bi-o aici. 3. Concentreaz\u0103-te pe ceea ce po\u021bi controla \u0219i accept\u0103 ceea ce nu po\u021bi controla. \u0218tim aceast\u0103 idee, dac\u0103 nu \u00een forma aceasta,  \u00een multe alte zicale populare. O \u0219tim dar avem probleme \u00een a o accepta \u0219i, deci, \u00een a o aplica. Ce anume putem controla? Tot ce…<\/span><\/p>\n

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