{"id":1112,"date":"2019-08-06T17:57:46","date_gmt":"2019-08-06T17:57:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/?p=1112"},"modified":"2019-08-06T17:59:21","modified_gmt":"2019-08-06T17:59:21","slug":"auto-constientizarea","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/2019\/08\/06\/auto-constientizarea\/","title":{"rendered":"Auto-con\u0219tientizarea"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>Rom\u00e2nii sunt mari judec\u0103tori. Ai celorlal\u021bi<\/strong>. \u00cen relativ pu\u021bine cazuri \u00ee\u0219i bat capul s\u0103 se judece pe sine \u0219i c\u00e2nd o fac, o fac dup\u0103 o m\u0103sur\u0103 pe care o construiesc special pentru ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i. Din procurorul \u00eend\u00e2rjit care erau c\u00e2nd \u00eei judecau pe ceilal\u021bi se transform\u0103, brusc, \u00een cel mai pasionat avocat al f\u0103pturii judecate, ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Anglosaxonii \u00eei spun \u201e<em>self-awareness<\/em>\u201d. Are multe sensuri dar, \u00een principal, se bizuie pe a \u021bine un ochi pe tine \u00eensu\u021bi\/\u00eens\u0103\u021bi. De ce faci ceea ce faci? De ce \u00ee\u021bi permi\u021bi \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi scuzi ceea ce nu permi\u021bi la ceilal\u021bi? Unde gre\u0219e\u0219ti de \u021bi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 ceea ce \u021bi se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103? Cum influen\u021bezi \u00een bine sau \u00een r\u0103u lumea din jurul t\u0103u?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"500\" src=\"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Self-Awareness-e1565113802884.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1113\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Self-Awareness-e1565113802884.png 660w, http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/Self-Awareness-e1565113802884-300x227.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\" \/><figcaption>Auto-con\u0219tientizare = &#8220;Abilitatea de a-\u021bi privi cu onestitate via\u021ba f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u00eencerci s\u0103 demonstrezi c\u0103 e corect\u0103 sau gre\u0219it\u0103&#8221; Debbie Ford<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<p>Se vehiculeaz\u0103 mult, \u00een ziua de azi, no\u021biunea (gre\u0219it\u0103, cred eu) de a nu judeca. <strong>Cum s\u0103 nu judec\u0103m? E darul cel mai pre\u021bios, este unul din pu\u021binele lucruri care ne desparte de animale<\/strong>. A\u0219a c\u0103 judec dar ca s\u0103 nu m\u0103 simt at\u00e2t de r\u0103u cu mine \u00eensumi c\u0103 o fac, \u00eencerc s\u0103 m\u0103 judec cu acelea\u0219i unit\u0103\u021bi de m\u0103sur\u0103 pe care le folosesc pentru ceilal\u021bi. Interiorul meu e o curte de justi\u021bie care rareori se opre\u0219te din lucru. Avocatul este acea latur\u0103 subiectiv\u0103 care \u00eencearc\u0103 s\u0103 nege fapta sau vorba spus\u0103 \u0219i c\u00e2nd aceasta nu mai e posibil, s\u0103 mitigheze, s\u0103 caute scuze \u0219i explica\u021bii. Dar procurorul nu lipse\u0219te de la judecat\u0103 \u0219i taie cu toporul prin argumentele avocatului \u2013 deseori false, auto-indulgente, puerile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201e<em>Spui c\u0103 nu ai timp s\u0103 scrii sau s\u0103 faci sport<\/em>?<em> Dar timp pentru sitcomuri \u0219i show-uri imbecile ai, nu<\/em>?\u201d<br> \u201e<em>Te crezi ecologist c\u0103 separi reciclabilele&#8230; dar conduci o ma\u0219in\u0103 sport<\/em>.\u201d<br> \u201e<em>E\u0219ti at\u00e2t de sensibil cu propriile dureri \u0219i \u021bi-ai dori ca ceilal\u021bi s\u0103 le sesizeze \u0219i s\u0103 le respecte, s\u0103-\u021bi respecte limitele dar \u00een acela\u0219i timp \u00ee\u021bi dai carte-blanche \u00een a intra \u00een zonele sensibile ale prietenilor<\/em>\u201d<br> \u201e<em>Te prezin\u021bi ca angajat con\u0219tiincios \u0219i-l critici pe Grigori dar nu poveste\u0219ti de c\u00e2te ori \u00eent\u00e2rzii la serviciu. Numai 15 minute<\/em>? <em>Uneori \u0219i jum\u0103tate de or\u0103. Alteori spui c\u0103 munce\u0219ti de acas\u0103 \u0219i de fapt doar r\u0103spunzi la c\u00e2teva email-uri. Uite, chiar \u0219i acum scrii pentru blog \u00een loc s\u0103 termini diagrama Visio<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Este clar c\u0103 o asemenea intreprindere va r\u0103m\u00e2ne, mereu, ancorat\u0103 \u00een subiectiv. Dar <strong>f\u0103r\u0103 auto-con\u0219tientizare sau f\u0103c\u00e2nd acest exerci\u021biu cu toat\u0103 p\u0103rtinirea de care e\u0219ti \u00een stare, nu vei \u0219ti niciodat\u0103 cine e\u0219ti \u0219i nu vei g\u0103si nici o solu\u021bie<\/strong> la multele defecte pe care le ai. <strong>Pentru c\u0103 nu vrei s\u0103 \u0219tii cine e\u0219ti<\/strong>. \u0218i <strong>dac\u0103 nu te accep\u021bi a\u0219a cum e\u0219ti nu po\u021bi deveni mai bun dec\u00e2t e\u0219ti<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218tiu c\u0103 sunt\nshopaholic \u2013 un cump\u0103r\u0103tor impulsiv. Accept\u00e2nd aceast\u0103 sl\u0103biciune am decis s\u0103\nevit s\u0103 fac turul magazinelor sau s\u0103 browsez site-ul Amazon sau eBay. \u0218tiu\nsitua\u021biile care \u00eemi cresc anxietatea \u0219i iritarea \u2013 \u00eencerc s\u0103 le evit \u0219i c\u00e2nd nu\npot fie caut s\u0103 ies din ele repede, fie dau avertismente celor care creaz\u0103\nsitua\u021bia \u0219i astfel le dau \u0219ansa de a opri alunecarea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar dincolo de aceste beneficii tangibile, auto-con\u0219tientizarea, \u021binerea unui ochi pe propria persoan\u0103, are multe beneficii subtile. <strong>C\u00e2nd \u00ee\u021bi con\u0219tientizezi e\u0219ecurile \u0219i defectele \u00ee\u021bi vine mai u\u0219or s\u0103 le ier\u021bi pe ale celorlal\u021bi<\/strong>, s\u0103 fii mai tolerant(\u0103). Contrar p\u0103rerii unor foste partenere eu sunt tolerant cu gre\u0219eala \u2013 nu \u0219i cu arogan\u021ba \u0219i lipsa self-awareness-ului care neag\u0103 e\u0219ecul chiar \u0219i \u00een fa\u021ba celor mai puternice dovezi. Natural \u00eemi vine greu s\u0103 dau \u00een cineva care-i trist c\u0103 nu a reu\u0219it \u2013 \u0219i \u00eemi place s\u0103 cred c\u0103 mul\u021bi dintre noi au o asemenea problem\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/selfaware.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1114\" width=\"210\" height=\"131\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/selfaware.jpeg 840w, http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/selfaware-300x188.jpeg 300w, http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/selfaware-768x480.jpeg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 210px) 100vw, 210px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Auto-con\u0219tientizarea e \u0219i o barier\u0103 \u00een fa\u021ba self-righteousness-ului, \u00een fa\u021ba credin\u021bei intime c\u0103 e\u0219ti mai bun dec\u00e2t ceilal\u021bi <\/strong>pentru c\u0103 a) e\u0219ti vegan \u0219i nu ucizi, b) e\u0219ti ecologist c\u0103 mergi cu bicicleta la serviciu, de\u0219i zbori de 3 ori pe an, c) te duci la Biseric\u0103 \u00een fiecare duminic\u0103, de\u0219i zilnic demonstrezi o lips\u0103 de empatie, chiar \u0219i pentru cei dragi, d) m\u0103n\u00e2nci s\u0103n\u0103tos \u0219i natural, ca str\u0103mo\u0219ii no\u0219tri, e) cite\u0219ti, de\u0219i cite\u0219ti numai inep\u021bii manieristice, f) nu ai hain\u0103 de blan\u0103, ocrote\u0219ti animalele dar por\u021bi haine f\u0103cute din petrol f\u0103r\u0103 nici o jen\u0103&#8230; m\u0103 opresc aici pentru c\u0103 nu cred c\u0103 mi-ar ajunge literele alfabetului pentru a descrie toate idio\u021beniile care-i ajut\u0103 pe oameni s\u0103 se simt\u0103 deosebi\u021bi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Odat\u0103 ce accep\u021bi\nc\u0103 e\u0219ti un p\u0103c\u0103tos ca to\u021bi ceilal\u021bi, poate c\u0103 \u00eentr-un fel mai subtil dec\u00e2t cele\nobi\u0219nuite, abia atunci te va lovi \u00een\u021belepciunea, vei g\u0103si mai mult\u0103 empatie \u00een\ntine \u00eensu\u021bi\/\u00eens\u0103\u021bi \u0219i nu te vei mai sim\u021bi \u00eendrept\u0103\u021bit s\u0103-i pui pe ceilal\u021bi la\nzid dup\u0103 o judecat\u0103 sumar\u0103. Recapitulare \u2013 judecat\u0103 = BINE; judecat\u0103 sumar\u0103 \u0219i\nexecu\u021bia = R\u0102U. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Not\u0103: <em>Tr\u0103gaciul pentru aceast\u0103 postare a fost modul \u00een care o psiholoag\u0103 a ales s\u0103-\u0219i prezinte preferin\u021ba ei pentru vegetarian &#8211; &nbsp;pentru c\u0103 salveaz\u0103 animalele de la crim\u0103. A folosit din nou \u0219i din nou acest cuv\u00e2nt \u201e<strong>crim\u0103<\/strong>\u201d, totodat\u0103 neg\u00e2nd c\u0103 s-ar sim\u021bi superioar\u0103 celorlal\u021bi. M-a \u0219ocat c\u00e2t de pu\u021bin\u0103 capabil\u0103 era s\u0103-\u0219i analizeze propriul psyche, \u00eenc\u00e2t \u2013 \u00een ciuda faptului c\u0103, indirect, \u00eei numea pe to\u021bi consumatorii de carne \u201e<strong>criminali<\/strong>\u201d, insista \u00een ideea ei c\u0103, nu, ea nu se pune deasupra celorlal\u021bi.<\/em> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Rom\u00e2nii sunt mari judec\u0103tori. Ai celorlal\u021bi. \u00cen relativ pu\u021bine cazuri \u00ee\u0219i bat capul s\u0103 se judece pe sine \u0219i c\u00e2nd o fac, o fac dup\u0103 o m\u0103sur\u0103 pe care o construiesc special pentru ei \u00een\u0219i\u0219i. Din procurorul \u00eend\u00e2rjit care erau c\u00e2nd \u00eei judecau pe ceilal\u021bi se transform\u0103, brusc, \u00een cel mai pasionat avocat al f\u0103pturii<span class=\"excerpt-ellipsis\">&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/2019\/08\/06\/auto-constientizarea\/\" itemprop=\"url\">Continue Reading<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[414,413,412,401],"class_list":["post-1112","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-commentary","tag-auto-constientizare","tag-psiholog","tag-self-awareness","tag-self-righteousness"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1112","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1112"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1112\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1116,"href":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1112\/revisions\/1116"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1112"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1112"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1112"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}