{"id":347,"date":"2013-07-29T10:31:23","date_gmt":"2013-07-29T10:31:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/?p=347"},"modified":"2013-07-29T13:15:05","modified_gmt":"2013-07-29T13:15:05","slug":"povesta-lui-frank","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/2013\/07\/29\/povesta-lui-frank\/","title":{"rendered":"Povestea lui Frank"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Frank, un coleg de serviciu, \u0219i so\u021bia lui aveau o via\u021b\u0103 c\u00e2t se poate de bun\u0103: 3 copii crescu\u021bi, o cas\u0103 excep\u021bional\u0103, complet pl\u0103tit\u0103, o carier\u0103 prosper\u0103 \u00eentr-o slujb\u0103 stabil\u0103 de guvern. C\u00e2nd fiica lui cea mare a plecat la universitate, \u00een Montreal, \u0219i copilul mijlociu a p\u0103\u0219it \u00een ultimul an de liceu, a realizat c\u0103 o etap\u0103 a vie\u021bii lui se apropie de final. A decis s\u0103 se preg\u0103teasc\u0103 pentru urm\u0103toarea etap\u0103. <!--more-->A pornit s\u0103 fac\u0103 sport \u2013 jiu-jitsu, un sport pe care-l practicase \u0219i \u00een tinere\u021be. A \u00eenceput s\u0103 vin\u0103 la serviciu pe biciclet\u0103 \u0219i o f\u0103cea constant aproape \u00een fiecare zi c\u00e2t dura vremea bun\u0103 \u2013 cca 40 km dus-\u00eentors. Pe baza acestui regim de sport combinat cu o alimenta\u021bie corect\u0103, a sl\u0103bit considerabil. Acas\u0103 \u00eens\u0103, so\u021bia, departe de a-l sus\u021bine, \u00eei ridiculiza str\u0103duin\u021bele: \u201e<em>Copiilor, privi\u021bi la tat\u0103l vostru: a \u00eennebunit. Face karate \u0219i pedaleaz\u0103 de parc-ar avea 20 de ani<\/em>\u201d. Frank mi-a jurat c-a \u00eencercat s\u0103 aib\u0103 discu\u021bii cu ea, sper\u00e2nd s\u0103 primeasc\u0103 un r\u0103spuns c\u00e2t de vag la \u00eentrebarea pertinent\u0103 \u201e<em>Ce vom face dup\u0103 ce copiii nu vor mai avea nevoie de noi<\/em>?\u201d. \u00a0Ea \u00eens\u0103 evita asemenea discu\u021bii, le am\u00e2na. Luni dup\u0103 luni ea a continuat s\u0103 fac\u0103 la fel cum f\u0103cuse o via\u021b\u0103 \u00eentreag\u0103: s\u0103 aleag\u0103 rutina, s\u0103-\u0219i \u00eenfunde creierul \u00een seriale TV, s\u0103 fac\u0103 shopping \u0219i s\u0103 b\u00e2rfeasc\u0103, o dat\u0103 pe s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 cu prietenele ei. A ales politica stru\u021bului, convins\u0103 ca Frank trece printr-o faz\u0103 care se va stinge cu timpul. Frank mi-o descria cu respect \u0219i povestea despre ea c-a fost o femeie dedicat\u0103, o mam\u0103 bun\u0103 dar acum nu mai \u0219tia cum s\u0103 ias\u0103 din acest tiparul de care el \u00eencerca s\u0103 se elibereze. Cam la un an \u0219i jum\u0103tate dup\u0103 ce aceast\u0103 criz\u0103 de maturitate a \u00eenceput s\u0103 se insinueze \u00een familia lor, Frank a re\u00eent\u00e2lnit pe Facebook iubirea din tinere\u021bea lui. Fuseser\u0103 \u00eempreun\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd el avea 23 de ani \u0219i ea 32. Ea dorea un mariaj, el se sim\u021bea prea t\u00e2n\u0103r pentru aceasta. Se desp\u0103r\u021biser\u0103, el o \u00eent\u00e2lnise pe cea cu care, trei ani mai t\u00e2rziu, s-a c\u0103s\u0103torit. Fosta prieten\u0103, acum 62 de ani, era tot divor\u021bat\u0103 \u0219i ar\u0103ta excep\u021bional de bine \u2013 mi-a ar\u0103tat poza ei. Au reluat rela\u021bia\u00a0 &#8211; \u00eent\u00e2i ca amici, apoi, pas cu pas, au redevenit iubi\u021bi.<\/p>\n<p>Acas\u0103, lucrurile erau deja terminate din punctul de vedere al unei rela\u021bii fizice cu soa\u021ba lui. Ini\u021bial, \u00eencepuse prin a dormi din ce \u00een ce mai des \u00een camera de oaspe\u021bi. Apoi, a dormit numai \u00een camera de oaspe\u021bi. A venit \u0219i ziua c\u00e2nd \u0219i-a mutat toate lucrurile de pe noptiera \u2013 c\u0103r\u021bi, reviste, ceas \u2013 \u00een camera de oaspe\u021bi. \u201e<em>\u0218i ea ce a spus<\/em>?\u201d am \u00eentrebat. Ea nu a spus nimic, se pare. \u00a0\u0218i a continuat s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 t\u0103cut\u0103 \u0219i c\u00e2nd el a \u00eenceput s\u0103-\u0219i viziteze ciudate de des sora din&#8230; Montreal (unde \u0219i fosta\/actuala lui iubit\u0103 tr\u0103ia). A continuat s\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 t\u0103cut\u0103 \u0219i c\u00e2nd el a prins s\u0103 mearg\u0103 la tot soiul de conferin\u021be profesionale, toate \u021bin\u00e2ndu-se \u00een loca\u021bii extrem de romantice: West Keys, Las Vegas etc. Asemeni pietonului care, c\u00e2nd trece strada nu se uit\u0103 la ma\u0219ini \u0219i prin aceasta simte c\u0103 \u201e<em>pericolul pe care nu-l vezi, nu exist\u0103<\/em>\u201d, p\u0103rea convins\u0103 c\u0103 familia nu i se va destr\u0103ma dac\u0103 nu ia aminte la cr\u0103p\u0103turi.<\/p>\n<p>Frank \u00eentinerea vizibil, at\u00e2t fizic c\u00e2t, mai important, emo\u021bional. Venea la serviciu plin de excitare \u0219i surexcitare. Povestea, cui st\u0103tea s\u0103-l asculte de ultimul email sau ultima conversa\u021bie avut\u0103 cu iubita lui. \u00cencepuse s\u0103-\u0219i caute slujb\u0103 \u00een Montreal, s\u0103 evalueze cartierele, s\u0103 ruleze calcule economice \u0219i implica\u021biile lor. So\u021bia lui, din c\u00e2te \u00eemi povestea, dup\u0103 ce \u00eel pistonam (nu avea nici un chef s\u0103-mi mai povesteasc\u0103), \u00ee\u0219i continua rutina zilnic\u0103, ad\u0103uga \u00eenc\u0103 un episod din \u201e<em>T\u00e2n\u0103r \u0219i nelini\u0219tit<\/em>\u201d la cele 4000 pe care le urm\u0103rise, citea \u0219i se \u00eengr\u0103\u0219a, nu lua vacan\u021be pentru c\u0103 ura s\u0103 zboare (fobiile pe care nu le domini ajung s\u0103 te domine pe tine).<\/p>\n<p>Am plecat de la acea slujb\u0103 \u00eenainte de momentul de final \u0219i n-am mai \u021binut leg\u0103tura cu Frank. Nu \u0219tiu ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat dar, cumva, nu-mi pot imagina c\u0103 Frank s-a re\u00eentors la \u201e<em>datoria familial\u0103<\/em>\u201d. A doua fat\u0103 intrase la facultate, tot la Montreal. Fiul lui, cel mai mic dintre copii, avea aproape 15 ani \u0219i, acceptase ideea c\u0103 un divor\u021b \u00eei va separa p\u0103rin\u021bii. Frank \u00ee\u0219i petrecea aproape fiecare weekend \u00a0la Montreal \u0219i mi-a spus c\u0103 are c\u00e2teva interviuri de slujb\u0103 \u00een ora\u0219ul iubitei lui. Era la fel de \u00eendr\u0103gostit \u0219i surexcitat \u0219i nu pot\/nu vreau s\u0103-mi imaginez c\u0103 s-a re\u00eentors \u00een locul lipsit de speran\u021b\u0103 care devenise familia lui.<\/p>\n<p><em>\u0218i ce vreau s\u0103 spun cu \u201epovestea lui Frank\u201d?! E o poveste relativ banal\u0103, curent\u0103, des reprodus\u0103 \u00een fel \u0219i chip \u00een at\u00e2tea regiuni, \u00een at\u00e2tea rase. \u00a0E o poveste a \u201ecrizei de maturitate\u201d. \u0218tiu multe asemenea pove\u0219ti \u2013 aceasta se distinge prin faptul c\u0103 au existat \u00eencerc\u0103ri cinstite de redresare a unei situa\u021bii. 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