{"id":79,"date":"2011-06-06T09:18:46","date_gmt":"2011-06-06T14:18:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/2link.ca\/blog\/?p=79"},"modified":"2011-06-06T09:18:46","modified_gmt":"2011-06-06T14:18:46","slug":"good-bad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/2011\/06\/06\/good-bad\/","title":{"rendered":"Good-Bad"},"content":{"rendered":"

For a very long time I wished to be good\u2026 and that strong desire made me become bad many times. I would speak my mind \u2013 giving many times \u201ccutting\u201d opinions, made people feel bad and then feel bad about myself for pointing them what their inner self tells them too but don\u2019t want to admit. Feeling bad about yourself is the sure way of behaving nasty toward the others. What is worse is that while in time I learned to be more diplomat with people I don\u2019t care much how they live their life, I kept on giving my truth to people dear or close to me, the ones with a future I perceived intertwined with mine. In other words I scold only the people I care for, just like I scold myself.
\nNo, I am not a good person. Not in this definition: telling people what they want and what they need to hear<\/em><\/strong>. I do good deeds \u2013 many times I was told that too much out of my way to help people, even to get away from their own mistakes, but I can\u2019t help telling them what they did wrong. And that is wrong \u2013 because people know what they did wrong, they know why their lives are not what they want them to be. They simply would not admit it. And that is why attending lifestyle-gurus conferences don\u2019t make one bit of a difference \u2013 people don\u2019t need to be told what is wrong, they just need will to fix what they are doing wrong. Unfortunately, I am so impatient that I keep on forgetting that one is never a prophet in his\/her own country<\/em> and I believe that a simple demonstration would (as it should) be taken for what it\u2019s worth.
\nPeople spend too much and then complain publicly about the state of their finances. Do you think they need to hear me pointing out the errors of their budget (or lack of)?! People make wrong emotional choices \u2013 hanging on too long on a destructive relationship\u2026 do you think it makes any difference if I point out the futility of expectation of love and care where it didn\u2019t happen in 1-2-3 years?!
\nI remember how angry it made me when my ex told me that she is with a man who is \u201cgood\u201d. It seemed so unfair! He paid for 2-3 dinners, told her that she is the most beautiful, accomplished woman he ever knew and had become good. I, on the other hand, to consider only the Canadian period, sustained her financially for 4-5 years. But during this time I told her what I considered is wrong: that taking Computer Science during the layoffs in the technology sector is dumb, then she should chose the stable job, not the exciting one\u2026 and unfortunately I was accurate as a soothsayer and she resented me for this. I pushed her to make a credit history, a driver license, forced her to become autonomous so in case of my death, she could continue to be on her feet and take care of Gabriel. That is why I became \u201cmean\u201d and a stranger who didn\u2019t help in any way in her becoming was \u201cgood\u201d.
\nNo, I am not a good person. I am just like a horrible Jiminy The Cricket\u2026 the voice of conscience, telling people \u201cThat is wrong \u201c\u2026 but they already know it and just do what they were programmed to do. In the end I resent myself too because I think I am a complete idiot expecting the pig to fly, the eagle to dig the soil, the chicken to kill and so on. What I build with dedication and hard work, I destroy in a moment with my damn mouth.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

For a very long time I wished to be good\u2026 and that strong desire made me become bad many times. I would speak my mind \u2013 giving many times \u201ccutting\u201d opinions, made people feel bad and then feel bad about myself for pointing them what their inner self tells them too but don\u2019t want to…<\/span><\/p>\n

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