{"id":97,"date":"2011-06-29T12:05:59","date_gmt":"2011-06-29T17:05:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/2link.ca\/blog\/?p=97"},"modified":"2013-09-08T07:39:06","modified_gmt":"2013-09-08T07:39:06","slug":"depresion-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.2link.ca\/newblog\/2011\/06\/29\/depresion-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Depression – Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"

As I promised, but later than I wished for, here is the follow up. \u201cThe pickle\u201d with all my advices, the most important, the critical aspect I left for now. Nothing is worth a dime without the most important one of all \u2013WILL\/DETERMINATION<\/strong>. And, hey, that is exactly where depression attacks \u2013 the WILL. Most of us, let\u2019s be honest, are lacking this in the best of times.<\/p>\n


\nThat is why self-help books, gurus, don\u2019t really help \u2013 because people don\u2019t need to be told what they are doing to mess up their lives; they need the WILL to stop doing it. You think obese people don\u2019t know they eat too much?! Or smokers don\u2019t know that their habit could lead to cancer? Or debt-ridden people need a special news bulletin telling them \u201cReduce spending\u201d?<\/p>\n

People tend to do what they want or feel like<\/strong> and, in many cases, this turns out to be the WRONG thing to do, often SELF-DESTRUCTIVE. Doing the right thing is hard<\/strong>, it is tedious, and rewards are too far in the future for the \u201cinstant gratification<\/em>\u201d society we live in. As children (at least in past times) we used to have somebody to guide us, to force us to eat right (not only candies and burgers and pizza), somebody who forced us to go to sleep at a certain time, learn well and have accomplishments we could be proud of. The 60s and their well-intentioned, poetical sometimes BS, changed all that. We don\u2019t even do that to the children anymore so how can we do it to fully grown, self-appointed responsible adults?!<\/p>\n

I studied myself. I don\u2019t want\/feel the need to go out for a walk although I know staying inside for longer periods makes me feel bad. I stay late at night although I know that I will be busted in the morning. When I was depressed, all I wanted to do is watch TV 16h\/day and sleep the rest. I know my tendencies and I am not even saying that they are not natural and understandable \u2013 but they are still DESTRUCTIVE.
\nWell, the solution comes from history as well. We were talking about Fabius Maximus<\/strong> \u2013 he was a DICTATOR. In times of crisis, Romans used to appoint dictators. Full-blown depression is such a time of crisis and it needs a dictator. I honestly believe that I could \u201ccure\u201d 70% of cases of modern-day depression\u2026 if only someone would sign their life over to me. Force depressed people to wake up at a certain time, to eat right, to sleep as much as they should, to exercise, and combine all these with helping them discover the truth about themselves and their problems\u2026 If only things could be this simple, but they aren\u2019t! In a world full of free, independent, intelligent individuals, this is not a fathomable solution.<\/p>\n

So, in the end, the only viable solution is to become a dictator yourself. Stop being permissive, indulgent, and understanding to yourself!<\/strong> I know that it goes against everything that modern society teaches us. But the modern society is exactly the problem. Do you remember this epidemic of depression during our parents\u2019 time?! Yes, they were frustrated, had their issues, sometimes they would be angry but I don\u2019t remember so many people letting themselves go and saying \u201cWhat is the point of all this<\/em>?\u201d.
\nI am well-acquainted with the voice that tells you \u2013 \u201cit is ok to become a couch potato because you don\u2019t feel fine, and you are going through too much<\/em>\u201d or \u201cit\u2019s ok to binge on ice-cream because nobody loves you<\/em>\u201d or \u201cYou should go shop something nice because you are too upset over the debts<\/em>\u201d\u2026 but that will compound the issue, will grow it out of proportion. Like in any \u201cinstant gratification\u201d system, it will make you feel fine for a short moment but much more miserable on the long run. <\/strong>
\nHere are the principles of this self-dictatorship:<\/p>\n